Recognizing the “in-love” experience for what it is- a temporary emotional high-and now pursuing “real love”. The kind of LOVE that is emotional in nature but not obsessional. It is a love that unites reason and emotion. It involves an act of the will and requires discipline, and it recognizes the need for personal growth. Our most basic emotional need is not to fall in love but to be genuinely loved by another, to know LOVE that grows out of reason and choice, not instinct. - The 5 Love Languages
From TP's tumblr...
Dear Frank,
I don't seek to be in love with you (though I am)... I am seeking to to love you and be loved by you. I know, I am certain that I could love you, that I could make you happy, when I am able to... I am not certain that you want to, or are able to (could), love me. And that truly is what I had wanted from the beginning, from before the beginning, to be loved by you. By you in your unique way, your exuberant way. I remember thinking, 'how nice would it be to be greeted by him everyday with such happiness?' That was the dream I had. I still haven't let it go. I know what I am looking for now, this idea, sparked by you, but perhaps I need to look in a different direction. I will always love you, I know. I am not willing to start something where I feel sure that I will go through more hurt.
For Kara. Ever notice how giving yourself the goal of being a better mother really means being a better everything? A better person, a better cook, a better housekeeper, a better financial provider, better at being healthy, better at dealing with emotions, better at being prepared, better at setting goals and achieving them... Here's to the journey of 'better': examining where I am now and clarifying where I want to be while striving to get from here to there.
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